Is Job Hunting Easier Than Having The Conversation?
You don't want to go, but how can you make it work? We'll find your answer.
- Your role shifts every week
- Your promotion keeps not happening
- You're putting off a hard conversation with your boss
60 minutes by Zoom. Full refund if you're not satisfied.
You're not sure you want to stay. You're not ready to quit.
The job's fine on paper, but you could be doing so much more. Why is nobody giving you the chance?
Decisions get made without you. Your work shows up in someone else's update. You're not even sure what your job is sometimes.
The role changes every week and nobody can tell you what "good" looks like. You want out, but you can't take a pay cut to get there.
Each one feels like a decision about leaving. But the issue is actually a conversation you haven't had yet.
Job hunting feels easier than talking to your boss. But you don't really want to leave yet.
Looking for the exit feels like progress. It's also a way to never find out what would have changed if you'd spoken up.
What you've been doing
- Scrolling job listings after work
- Asking AI what else your skills are good for
- Mentally rehearsing what you'd say to your boss instead of falling asleep
What you're settling for
- A job where you don't know why you do what you do
- Pay that hasn't increased with your skills
- A boss who has no idea anything is wrong
- Dealing with it "for the time being"
Most people show up with the wrong problem. You leave with the right next step.
60 minutes by Zoom. We find the real problem, pinpoint your highest impact next step, and get you ready to take it.
The problem behind the problem. Most people come in asking whether they should leave. We slow down and figure out what's actually draining you: this job, this career, or one piece of your week you dread.
Your next best step. One thing you can do this week. It's almost always a conversation. We write the first sentence together, in words you'd actually say to your boss.
You probably won't want to do it. It's annoying that you even have to. Your body treats a hard conversation like a threat, so we train your body, not just your script.
Light movement until your heart rate is up. Then I walk you through that exact moment, live, and we desensitize you to the dread around it. You keep the recording.
One client came in ready to start job hunting. After 30 minutes, the real problem turned out to be one recurring part of his job he dreaded. He had one conversation with his boss, pitched it as a win for the team, and got 4 hours a week back, without taking on any other tasks.
Clients are anonymized and details are changed to protect their privacy.
You leave with
- Clarity on the real problem: your tasks, your job, or your career fit
- The highest impact next step
- A live rehearsal while your heart rate is up
- A recording to practice with on your own
- A 20-minute follow-up after you've done it
- Thinking of leaving anyway? Learn how to build a short list of other roles your skills would transfer to, and roughly what they pay
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I used to avoid these conversations too.
I was a homeschooled introvert who was scared to ask for things. I took a job that made me physically ill from stress, and I "stuck it out" instead of saying anything.
So I got a master's in Neuroscience. I studied positive psychology and negotiation. I built a framework I call Empathic Influence, for people who don't want to be aggressive, fake, or loud.
The words were never my problem. At 25, I stood shaking in a presentation in front of 50 parents (potential clients), losing my thoughts mid-sentence. What I later learned was how to stay in my own body long enough to keep my thoughts straight.
I've coached 100+ people since 2018. Nobody talks about how emotional work is. Everybody's hiding it.
What clients do afterward:
- Know whether it's the job or the career
- Have the conversation they'd been putting off
- Get credit for work they were already doing
- Ask for what they need without it turning into a fight
3 things I tell almost every client
Quitting doesn't delete the hard conversation.
You'll have it with your next boss. If you go out on your own, you'll have it with your clients. Better to learn it where you already have some trust.
In a dark room, don't pick a direction and start running.
Feel around. A little here, a little there. One conversation, or a few applications sent with no stakes, tells you more than another month of thinking.
Whatever you're not saying comes out anyway.
It comes out as beating around the bush. Short answers in meetings. Quietly checking out. People can tell. Saying it on purpose is usually safer.
I get nervous too. Here's what I do.
My "Don't Calm Down" talk · 1:38
What people say about working with Dave
Clients often leave with a clearer head, a specific next step, and more confidence to take it.
"He supported me in making a big career change to a new job."
"Dave provided exceptional service and a profound understanding of what I was actually dealing with."
"I came out of our session with great insight and a solid action plan tailored to my needs."
"Dave's greatest impact was on my job performance. If you procrastinate, if you have impostor syndrome, Dave is the guy for you."
"Working with Dave was phenomenal. He helped me channel my skills into a workable and realistic plan for salary growth."
"Working with Dave was one of the best things I did for my career. His approach was super collaborative."
"Thanks to his support, I've become more confident in my personal value and brand."
"He has you stop and breathe, so you can speak from a place of groundedness."
"Dave helped me better than anyone so far. I am wicked ADHD and dozens of times I have tried to develop both AM and PM routines. Gotten farther than any previous attempt so far."
Dave Wolovsky
- Neuroscience (got a master's in it)
- Positive psychology (a certification)
- Negotiation (books, courses, teaching)
I created "Empathic Influence & Negotiation" and applied it to salary negotiations, job interviews, and networking. Then I created the "Mindful Sprint" process.
An early client got a $35k raise, 3.5x his first offer, while cutting back to a 4-day workweek.
- Better job opportunities.
- Higher compensation.
- Stronger boundaries.
- Confrontational situations.
- Resentful relationships.
- Suffocating stress.
A few quick answers
I don't know what I want yet. Is this for me?
Yes. That's where most people start. You don't need to know what you want. You need to know what's draining you, and we'll help you find out what's REALLY draining you (the hidden factors).
What if I end up staying?
Then the hour worked. Most people I talk to aren't sure they want to leave. They're sure something has to change.
What if I'm already leaning toward leaving?
Then we make sure you're leaving the right thing. Sometimes it's the career. Sometimes it's one part of the job. If it's the career, you'll leave knowing how to find the roles your skills transfer to.
Is one hour enough?
Enough to find the real problem and your next step. Not enough to plan your whole career. But some clients have turned things around with just 1 conversation with their boss.
What if it doesn't help?
Full refund, no questions asked.
Have the conversation first. I'll get you ready for it.
If nothing changes, a year from now you'll feel exactly how you feel today.
Come as you are. No plan, no answer, and no energy you don't have. You'll leave with best next step.
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